"The
conversation was about the affection of the two wives you have in ghost
marriage and your real marriage. So the affection is not the same like for the ghost
marriage, the husband can love his real wife more then with the ghost wife. So,
when you provide them with other things like goats, cows… the son will say that
you are not my father this things are ours yet you are the one who provide
them. Then that thing can cause quarrel among the family. So the affection is
not the same. But your real wife can listen to you because she knew these
things are for us all. It is for my husband and it is for me also and if the
man made the decision as head of the house she could listen to you and you can
do your thing with freedom. So that is how the problem comes. So ghost marriage
has problems among the community there is a misunderstand among the families
So when
this girl, this daughter of the ghost gets married and the cows come into the
family, her sons will take them and I will be getting a little congregation with my wife. Even the whole clan will come
and say this is not your daughter is for our brother.
The
ghost marriage is a good thing for them to do that because it was something
traditional. It was started long, long time ago and they have seen it been done
and they have no objection of that. They
are happy for that. But they have no choice, because girls are a source of
wealth. The only thing the man can do is you come to the parents and you
introduce your marriage as a ghost marriage. If you have given them enough cows
the girl has no say. She has to come for that marriage because they have no
freedom and most of the marriage is forced marriage. Even if the girl does not
love you, they have to force her."
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